Growing old is an imperative process. We all know the drill. We grow, we age, we wrinkle and who knows what’s next?
Yesterday, as I was visiting pages, I stumbled into a blog post that touches aging, the important decision some families have to make in order to give their elders the attention and proper care they need on a daily basis. If we are to look at it people have reasons why they think nursing home or an assisted living facility works for them while some think otherwise.
Admittedly, the issue of growing old and who is going to take care who is not new in our household. My mother used to tell us she wants to be nowhere else than in her own home where she can be comfortable staying in her familiar surroundings – something we (her children) have also agreed on to. Not that I have anything against assisted living but personally, I don’t envision myself making a trip, sending any of my loved ones especially my mother to any of those institutions as well.
There might be burdens that come with old age and none in our family is expert in caregiving but for sure we can always count on online resources like Parent Giving (check their website at http://www.parentgiving.com )to provide us information that we need to better foster our aging parents.
The same site also carries home care facilities for elderly. At Parent Giving store you have full access to essential health and medical products that you need and when you need them. Who knows, maybe I can make use of this site too along the way.
Bottom line is, we don’t want to make our parents to feel isolated so assisted living is not an option for us especially after they expressed where they want to be when they grow old – and that is HOME.
Saturday, September 15, 2012
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It's the sad reality we have to face, we get sick, we grow old and what happens next? It's not actually how it should be (talking about biblical plan) but yeah for now, it's best to think about old age this way...to not be selfish but be the independent person one should be.
so true HOME is the best place for our elderly family. However, when you live in America mostly that is not the option. People here work more than 1 job just to make ends meet and having someone disable at home without any help from another person would cripple the ones bring the bacon home. that's why majority of people here have no choice but to send their loved ones to a home care so they can have reassurance that their loved one are given the proper care they need. no wonder why majority of Filipinos decide to go back home and retire because they know that they wont be happy here when they're old unlike in PI.
sending our parents to home care institution is not a Filipino culture, we take care of our parents as long as they're living but like you I am open to the idea of sending them to a better place which will give them the best care But as long as I can I want my parents to be with me and give them all the love they need.
I was raised by my grandmother and now that she is on her late 70's, she'd often sit me down and talk to me about these things, telling me that she'd be better off in a home because she doesn't want to burden us, but I always tell her no. I will not send her to a nursing home for the reason that she didn't send me to an orphanage or left me with a yaya when I was abandoned by my parents.. No, she took care of me, and I will take care of her..
My grandma says she'd be happy with her fellow oldies though, but still, it's not an option for us as well.. :P
When my parents get old i would take care of them. Will hire some house helpers but i will not send them to nursing homes
When my mother-in-law was old and frail and would get out of her house walking out on the road aimlessly, we know we had to do something. She did not want to go to the nursing home either, but we had no choice. She was staying in her house for as long as she can, then she got sick and needed medical assitance. I guess we could have hired a nurse to stay with her, but she needed much more than that. WE took her to the assisted living, which I know she was not all for that, then later on when she got really bad she had to move to the nursing home. She could not leave with us and I was pregnant with our second child and I could not watch her and she was much bigger and heavier than me so I could no longer lift her up and help her with everything. It was not easy for us to find a nurse to live with her either. It was sad, but something we had to do.
As a child i will do anything and everything for my parents when they get old i want them to be comfortable as i am when i was their lil girl :)
I really admire families who choose to take care of their elder parents at home coz it is showing real love to parents. I know i will be the one to care of my parents being the eldest. Parang i've taken it wholeheartedly na as a responsibility. I am worried though na when time comes when i'll be the one who needs care napud no one will do coz i have no child. Murag home care facility jud akong bagsak ani. lol!
as for Filipino families - i think we all do take care of our old... in our family our grandparents helped our parents shape and bring us up.
for us it's not that it's a responsibility but a we take it as thanks to our grandparents.. :)
How I wish that I can take care of my Mom but unfortunately I live from away from her. I do help her not personally buy some of her needs. I wish that I am their to take care of her personally. My niece and my nephew are their to help my Mama and their Lola :-)
very true to the elderly here in America, they need a home where they can be active and social and not just stay depressed at home. it might not be true to others but I have known some families who have elderly relatives sent to the nursing homes. sad, but it's their way of life.
I think we share the same views, I don't imagine myself sending my mom to an institution not that I have anything against those who opt to do that, it is something that I don't think I can do.
my in law is now in rehab/assisted living and he's pretty happy living there because they really take good care of him :)
Do this type of social facility welcome already in the Phils? Like socio-culturally? I think its not far from happening... kaya mabait ako sa anak ko kasi sila ang pipili ayaw ko naman sa mingaw.. hahaha :)
As a Filipino we did not put our older folks to a nursing home. I will be the one taking care of my hubby...
Both my parents are already in their 70's and also have medical issues going on. I am just glad that my sisters houses were inside one compound, they can take turns in checking my parents. We just hired a house help that will assist them of their daily needs. Here in the US it's really different.
I have nothing against those who bring their parents to institutions like "home for the aged" but when the time comes that my parents are in their old age, I would still want to be with us "at our home" so I can look after them always.
it's in our culture to take care of our parents, and sometimes nga our other older relatives pa, when they reach the prime of their life. I also want my son to take care of me and not put me in a nursing institution. I think that should be my reward for being, I think, a very good mama to him :)
although as much as we don't want that to happen, it's something inevitable and we don't have any choice but to be as strong as possible.
It's really different having the elderly here in the Philippines and in the US. I just hope that when my parents get older, I'd be able to personally take care of them and support them.
When I grow old..okey lang if ilagay ako ng anak ko sa home for the aged facility.. kaya lang pinoy kasi tayo..hindi pa ganun ka-open ang culture natin..pero mas okey nga yun eh mas maalagaan tayo dun or yung parents natin di ba..
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